'Screen time' has been in the news again recently, but parents are still getting mixed messages about how much is ‘too much’. Here’s how to take a reasonable, flexible approach - and get your children on board too.

This week, the Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health released their report into screen time. The good news is that they haven’t found any compelling evidence that screen time is harmful - but unfortunately for the many confused parents out there, there’s no definitive line on what a ‘safe’ amount of screen time looks like, either.

There are sensible, evidence-based ways to think about screen time limits - and, by getting your child/ren involved, you can find a solution that really works for your family.

Here’s where to start.

Remember that not all screen time is the same

Not all online activities are equal: doing something creative or learning new skills are very different from mindless scrolling on social media. Being online might be allowing them to socialise in a positive way - or maybe they’re just doing something that they really, really enjoy. If there are real benefits, then the amount of time they spend doing it becomes important.

You know your child better than anyone: as long as screen time isn't interfering with schoolwork or other activities, and isn’t having a noticeable effect on their mood, then try not to obsess over the numbers - there’s probably no need to panic.

How long should children spend online per day?

That said, most parents will want to set some kind of limit. The ‘Goldilocks theory’ put forward by academics from Oxford and Cardiff universities suggests that a certain level of screen time can be beneficial, helping children develop their creativity and build their communication skills.  Around 1 to 2 hours daily during the week and a bit longer at the weekends is considered ‘just right’ for teens - after that the benefits gradually taper off, and the negative effects increase. Younger children, aged 4-7 years old, should probably spend no more than an hour a day online - this can go up to around an hour and a half as they get older. 

Boundaries really do work if you stick to them

The important thing is to get your child involved in the process so that they understand why you're setting limits. Be very clear about your reasons and ask them what they think - getting buy-in at this stage will really help to avoid arguments later on. Remember that teens might need to spend longer online to complete their homework.

Once you’ve agreed the limits, stick to them! It's always tempting to give up in the face of pester power or the sulks, but it will get easier every time you stick to your guns. Honestly.

Look out for signs that screen time is having a negative effect

Keep an eye on how your child’s screen time may be affecting other areas of their life. If they’re spending time with friends and getting enough sleep and exercise, then it's likely that they already have a healthy balance. Talk to your child about what they’re doing online and get them to think about how it makes them feel when they spend time doing these things. You never know, they may actually agree that staying up late gaming is making them too tired for school the next day, or admit that constant scrolling through social media is starting to affect their self-esteem.

Have quality family screen time together

Although it is good to set aside time when the family is not using screens - outdoor activities, chats at meal times, day trips at the weekend -  this doesn’t mean that you can’t also get involved in using screens together. If you know that your child enjoys playing games online, organise a family gaming night or let them plan something for the whole family to get stuck into. If you take a real interest in what they like to do online - whether it's the influencers that they rate, or the latest downloadable content (DLC) on their go-to game, they're more likely to come to you if something goes wrong, or they make a mistake along the way.